Accidentally - on purpose...

This has been a CRAZY week. Fascinating, but crazy.
This week alone I was confronted three separate times with the topic of getting pregnant "accidentally - on purpose."
You know, having sex with a guy at just the right time and "Ooops! Guess what? You're gonna be a daddy whether you like it or not!!!"
Possibly the most shocking thing about this topic is that the three sources were all in favor of it!

I was so disturbed by it all week that I could neither respond to their emails nor post on this blog about it. I couldn't even
get my thoughts together without having a mental tirade! How on earth could anyone ever think that is a good course of
action? Now I know why this world is so effed up! Does anyone have any moral or ethical fiber anymore? Worst of all, two of the emails were from "older" men! I expected so much more from their generation.

Granted, I think when men write to me to criticize the use of a sperm bank, I believe it is more about their feeling that men will eventually be superfluous. That women will eventually find a way to "make" sperm without a man and buy it at the bank.
But this is ridiculous and the dream (perhaps) of only a few misguided lesbians. Relax, men are safe (for now).

The most disturbing of the email was a pot on a message board from a woman asking for the group's opinions on her desire to accidentally get pregnant by her married boyfriend. She stated that she had "such a problem" with the idea of going to a sperm bank and couldn't possibly explain that to her child someday. HUH? You'd rather tell your kid that Mommy first chose to keep having sex with a married man (with other children) and then lied and conned him until she was preggo. Then, Daddy didn't want anything to do with Mommy or YOU (the child).

Yeah...try that one on sister...see how that works out for ya. And let's face it, this woman secretly harbors the notion that this man will realize what he is missing, leave his wife and child and marry her to raise THEIR baby! She won't admit it, but why else would you try to engineer such a horrible situation?

This manipulative, childish, selfish and appalling behavior is exactly why women get accused of doing this stuff even when they're NOT! This woman not only makes a bad name for the rest of us, but let's face it, she is in NO frame of mind to raise a child right now. She has such low self-esteem as to believe that this is her only option? Just imagine the type of daughter she'd raise. Furthermore, I can predict that if/when this man completely cuts off this woman and her child, she will turn around and cry "victim."
How do I know? After she posted her question about doing this -- asking for the opinions of the group -- she wrote again upset that she was attacked and judged by so many. SHE ASKED FOR THAT! Don't ask the question if you don't REALLY want to know the answer. She didn't want a straight answer...she wanted permission to carry out this sick and twisted plan.

I know I sound harsh and judgmental but I am speaking from experience...just read the early posts of this blog! However many unsuitable or unavailable men I've dated, I have NEVER wanted to get pregnant accidentally - on purpose. It is an idea that nauseates me -- especially with all of the technology today to help us have a child without ruining other lives!